I'm a big believer in growth. Life is not about achievement, it's about learning and growth, and developing qualities like compassion, patience, perseverance, love, and joy, and so forth. And so if that is the case, then I think our goals should include something which STRECHES us.
(Jack Canfield)

WHAT I LEARNED IN LIFE


I've learned -
that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them.

I've learned-
that no matter how much I care, some people just don't care back.

I've learned-
that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.

I've learned-
that it's not what you have in your life but who you have in your life that counts.

I've learned-
that you can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes. After that, you'd better know something.

I've learned-
that you shouldn't compare yourself to the best others can do.

I've learned-
that you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.

I've learned-
that it's taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.

I've learned-
that you can keep going long after you can't.

I've learned-
that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.

I've learned-
that either you control your attitude or it controls you.

I've learned-
that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades
and there had better be something else to take its place.

I've learned-
that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.

I've learned-
that money is a lousy way of keeping score.

I've learned-
that my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time.

I've learned-
that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down
will be the ones to help you get back up.

I've learned-
that sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.

I've learned-
that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.

I've learned-
that just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.

I've learned-
that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.

I've learned-
that you should never tell a child their dreams are unlikely or outlandish. Few things are more humiliating, and what a tragedy it would be if they believed it.

I've learned-
that your family won't always be there for you. It may seem funny, how people you aren't related to can take care of you and love you and teach you to trust people again. Families aren't always biological.

I've learned-
that no matter how good a friend is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.

I've learned-
that it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you are to learn to forgive yourself.

I've learned-
that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.

I've learned-
that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.

I've learned-
that just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other And just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do.

I've learned-
that we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.

I've learned-
that you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.

I've learned-
that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.

I've learned-
that no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt and you will hurt in the process.

I've learned-
that your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don't even know you.

I've learned-
that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.

I've learned-
that credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.

I've learned-
that the people you care about most in life are taken from you too soon.

I've learned-
that it's hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting people's feelings and standing up for what you believe.

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...and here are some great qoutes about the subject :

* Learning is a treasure that will follow its owner everywhere.
~Chinese Proverb

* Always walk through life as if you have something new to learn and you will. ~Vernon Howard

* I find four great classes of students: The dumb who stay dumb. The dumb who become wise. The wise who go dumb. The wise who remain wise. ~Martin H. Fischer

* No matter how one may think himself accomplished, when he sets out to learn a new language, science, or the bicycle, he has entered a new realm as truly as if he were a child newly born into the world.
~Frances Willard

* Anyone who stops learning is old, whether at twenty or eighty.
~Henry Ford

* We learn more by looking for the answer to a question and not finding it than we do from learning the answer itself.
~Lloyd Alexander

* I cannot teach anybody anything, I can only make them think - ~Socrates

* I never teach my pupils; I only attempt to provide the conditions in which they can learn.
~ Albert Einstein

* The teacher if he is indeed wise does not teach bid you to enter the house of wisdom but leads you to the threshold of your own mind.
- Kahlil Gilbran


Have an awesome weekend..

Among Imam Shafi’i’s words which carried Sufi values were :



"A man who is cruel to himself, is one who lowers himself to someone who does not respect him, and one who likes something which does not bring him any benefit, and one who is praised by someone who does not really know him. One who is not honoured for his Taqwa, is not a person who is honoured. To probe into a man’s secret, is more cruel than investigating an animal. If I know that such an investigation will affect my honour, I shall not drink even if I am thirsty. Among the true signs of Ukhwah is to accept criticisms from friends, and to protect a friend’s honour and forgive his mistakes."

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Abu Maalik Al-Ash’ari narrates that the Prophet (pbuh) says, “Certainly in the paradise, there are chambers. Its outside can be seen from inside and its inside can be seen from outside. Allah has prepared these chambers for those who feeds others and spreads salaams and performs Salaah in the night when people are asleep."


Abu Hurairah (r.a) says, “I said, “O Prophet of Allah, whenever my eyes fall upon you, I am overjoyed and my eyes are cooled. Inform me of everything? The prophet (pbuh) said, “Everything is created from water”, and then I asked him to inform me of an act, that if I do it, I will enter into paradise. He (the prophet) said, “Feed others and spread Salaams and join family ties and pray at night when people are asleep, you will enter paradise peacefully”.

Mawlana Shaykh Nazim Adil Haqqani


The Lord created us and loves us; that is why everyone loves love. No one complains of love or wants it to be taken from him, but all want to be loved more. Where are you seeking love? Are you taking pure water from the gushing source, or muddy, slimy water from the ditch? You love people, but they will die. Perhaps your love will be unrequited, or because of a small error or indiscretion on your part that person's heart will harden to you and love will be no more. You say that you love him or her, but do you love him or her unconditionally? Is your love permanent-love for the real immaculate divine essence living in that person, or temporary, as a result of some desirable attributes: beauty, youth, wealth, station or wit? When that beautiful, young, wealthy, clever, amiable socialite becomes an ugly, old, penniless, senile, grumpy outcast will you still love her? Is your love of the spirit or of the world?


Oh people, seek real love, a love that cannot go astray. That love is the love of God and the love of his creatures for the sake of His love for them. That love emanation may bind all receptive hearts. There is a common saying: "The friend of a friend is a friend", so love people if you love God, for you must know that He loves them. It is not always easy to love people, even good people, so what about the Korahs of this world?

Love pertaining to the ego is not love, as all the ego knows is to love itself, and what is commonly called love is but a mutual understanding to support each other's egoism. Don't trust your ego, nor anyone else's, for the ego is disloyal by nature. When the spirit gains ascendancy the ego may be harnessed and put to good use, as the Holy Prophet (sallallaho alayahi wasallam) said: "Your ego is your mount", but left to its whims it will take you many miles from your path in search of herbage.


This discourse is an Ocean, its summary is: what is of the world beware of, and pay attention to the dose. When crossing that ocean embark on a sturdy ship with well maintained lifeboats and life-preservers, and if you swim in it keep your head above water!

lost by Atif

I lost someone,

in the woods of darkness,

trying to find a way,

back to the earth.

I left someone,

in the hell of silence,

pushing the brakes,

hitting me back,

paralizing me in those immortal thoughts.

I am being seperated from someone,

in the way of that unknown path,

where I couldn't get a hint of liquor of truth,

nor a wing to hold from start to last.

The lost someone is nobody else,

but me in the fits of fears,

which made me hate the darkness,

which I loved before, around the sphere.

And at the end,the tears says,

the truth carves on the rocks of ever,

that I am lost forever,who can be rescued never.

-Atif Hussain

I guess you didnt notice how i looked into ur eyes,

And saw how your soul screamed

For the truth through all the lies.

And now you're with him

when it should be me.

i guess that you're too oblivious to see,

how happy I am

when you're with me,

but now you're gone

And my heart bleeds

There is a secret path to the heartwinding through a rose,

where deep between

the layers of roseness,

a lover can find the wayto the embedded clues of the truth,

hidden there by the warriors of love.

There is no battle cry, no army,

no weapons, no flag to carry,

for the wayfarer must enter

the deep jungle of fragranceand alluring silken beauty

to find the heart within the rose.
Enter the rose with Rumi,

and he will show you the way,

spinning you around and dancing

you into laughter and wonder.

The mystics know the way of the heart

and guard the secrets well.

No map exists, and no words can describe

the alchemy of the journey

that turns you into light.
Fall out of your well laid plans,

and fall deeply into love.

Love will meet you inside the rose,

and you will awakenin the beauty of your heart.

(c) whispering mystic